I wrote a column entitled “What I Listen To When” for the now-defunct magazine the{BREAK}. It was one of the magazine’s highlights, so I’ve decided to continue the tradition here in a new series called No Average Playlist.

No
Average
Playlist:

A New Season

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We all go through various stages in life. Each of these stages has a soundtrack of songs that not only can describe our feelings and emotions better, but can also encourage us to move forward despite any fear or reservations we may have.

I personally like to shake things up in my life on a regular basis. I’ll try a new haircut every six months or so to see what fits my face better. I’ll watch a movie in a genre that I’d usually never pick. I tend to get bored very easily, so there has to be movement of some sort to keep me interested. However, I must admit I’m not as bold with my food choices; I’ve had enough trips to the hospital because something I ate sent me into anaphylactic shock.

“Time asks no questions, it goes on without you
Leaving you behind if you can’t stand the pace”
– Des’ree –

Nevertheless, life is all about forward movement. Even the cells in our bodies constantly and consistently regenerate themselves to stay fresh. When these cells stop regenerating, they die. The same goes for us: life without change is death.

“It’s time to reset, rethink, reposition”
– Hunter Hayes –

Life has the tendency to throw curve balls onto our paths every once in a while that require us to change. Maybe you’ve become apathetic at a job you used to love, or your once-loving relationship has gone south. In these cases, it doesn’t necessarily require cutting ties, but it does call for readjustment. You can’t expect things to change if you don’t.

If what you’ve lost
cannot be found and
the weight of the world
weighs you down…
you’ve gotta look
yourself in the eye
and say “I am wonderful”
– Gary Go –

Of course, there are situations that will require you to exit stage left. You have to be confident enough in yourself and the reasons you are alive to know your worth. Not everything (or everyone) deserves your presence. Yes, this is easier said than done; however, anything worth having takes work. Of course there is also a very thin line between confidence and pride, so make sure you’re not dancing on the latter side.

“I wish I knew then what I know now
Wouldn’t dive in, wouldn’t bow down”
– Katy Perry –

In dark times, we have the tendency to self-isolate. I am a huge proponent of taking some alone time to self-reflect, but it becomes a problem when it begins to take the place of your personal relationships. Avoiding fellowship with others under the guise of “I don’t want to be a burden” or “I’ll just darken the mood” is just a twisted, politically correct way of avoiding growth.

“Every night you’re there by my pillow
Your departure’s long overdue now
Loneliness, it’s time that I let you go”
– Emily King –

In times of transition, it’s best to have people around you that are invested in your growth. Whether it’s a family member, friend or mentor, they may have some encouragement or a piece of advice that could change your entire perception of the situation. Someone that will tell you what you need to hear (not just what sounds good) and give you that slight kick in the pants to move you forward. It’s not going to be an easy road, but avoiding the road altogether will not only delay the inevitable, but could possibly make it worse.

“it doesn’t matter how high you climb
If no one’s there to share the ride”
Brandon Heath –

What’d We Learn?

Instead of looking back on what was, or trying to preserve the current season, a bit of optimism is the best perspective. Every season and situation can be considered a blessing or a lesson; it just depends on what lens you’re looking through.

“No more wasting my time looking in the mirror
Wishing my life was a little bit clearer
No way, baby, I can’t complain.”
– David Archuleta –